Platonic relationship: what is platonic love?

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What Is a Platonic Relationship?

A platonic relationship is one in which people nói qua a cthua trận bond but bởi not have a sexual relationship. The concept originates in the ideas of the ancient philosopher Plato, from whose name the term is derived. Where Plakhổng lồ believed this type of love could bring people closer khổng lồ a divine ikhuyễn mãi giảm giá, the modern use of the term is focused on the idea of people being cthua friends.

The opposite of a platonic relationship is a sexual or lãng mạn relationship. While the term is sometimes thought to apply only lớn opposite-sex friends, it can also apply lớn same-sex friendships as well.

Signs Your Relationship Is Platonic

There are a number of characteristics that distinguish a platonic relationship from some other types of relationships. In addition to the laông xã of a sexual aspect, this type of relationships also tends to lớn be marked by:

Closeness: Both people in the relationship feel a closeness to lớn each other và feel that they share things in common.Honesty: Both individuals feel that they can chia sẻ what they really think & feel with the other person.Acceptance: These relationships tend to lớn feel easy & comfortable. Both people feel that they are safe và free lớn be themselves.Understanding: People who nói qua a platonic relationship have a connection, but they also recognize and respect each other"s personal space. They don"t try to lớn force the other person to vày things they don"t want lớn vì or be something that they are not.

These types of relationships are often friendships. And while the laông chồng of a sexual relationship is what characterizes this type of connection, it does not necessarily mean that the individuals in the relationship are not attracted to lớn each other or could not start to feel attracted to one another.

Types of Platonic Relationships

A few different terms have sầu emerged khổng lồ describe some different types of platonic relationships. These include:

Bromance: This is a term used lớn describe a cthua, affectionate, non-sexual relationship between two men.Womance: This term is used to lớn describe an emotional, non-sexual, non-lãng mạn bond between two women.Work spouse: This phrase is sometimes used to lớn describe a cthua kém but non-sexual connection between colleagues or co-workers that involves bonds and sometimes even roles similar khổng lồ that of a marriage.

How to Form Platonic Relationships

Platonic relationships can be important for psychological well-being. Retìm kiếm has found that having social tư vấn plays a vital role in mental health, so building a network of people that include family, platonic friends, & other loved ones can be important for your overall wellness.

Join social networking groups where you can meet peopleSign up for workshops or classes on topics that interest youParticipate in online communitiesVolunteer for causes you care about in your community

In addition lớn developing new platonic relationships, it is also important to understvà how to keep the ones you have now healthy and svào. Some ways to lớn vày this include being supportive, maintaining boundaries, & practicing honesty.

Impact of Platonic Relationships

There are a number of reasons why having platonic relationships is important for your health & well-being. Some of the positive effects that these relationships may bring khổng lồ your life include:

Love sầu & Support

Research suggests that having love & support from people in your life can have sầu important health benefits. This type of tư vấn can lower your risk for disease, improve your immunity, và decrease your risk for depression and anxiety.

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Your platonic tư vấn system can help provide emotional tư vấn by listening lớn what you have sầu to lớn say, providing validation, & helping you when you are in need.

Lower Stress

Stress can take a serious toll on both your physical và mental health. Chronic or prolonged bao tay can contribute khổng lồ health problems such as cardiac disease, high blood pressure, digestive sầu issues, và decreased immunity. It can also play a role in mood problems such as anxiety or depression.

Having strong platonic relationships outside of immediate family và lãng mạn partnerships, however, has been found to help people cope better with sources of căng thẳng. Not only that, having supportive platonic friendships lowers the ức chế that people face.

Increased Resilience

Platonic relationships can also play a role in helping you become more resilient in the face of life"s challenges. Whether it involves troubles in your lãng mạn relationships, problems in your family, work struggles, or health challenges, your platonic relationships can support you as you weather these storms.

One study found that one of the biggest predictors of a person"s ability to recover after a traumatic or stressful event was the presence of svào friendships.

Tips for Health Platonic Relationships

Platonic relationships are not always easy khổng lồ find. When you vì chưng establish a svào platonic bond, it is important to lớn continue to lớn nurture và strengthen that connection. Some things that you can vày to help keep these relationships healthy include:

Don"t make them bởi all the work: Don"t rely on the other person to lớn make all of the plans or initiate all of the tương tác. Reach out to them regularly to invite them to participate in activities.Stay in touch: điện thoại tư vấn, text, or even gmail the other person from time to lớn time just khổng lồ keep that line of communication open. Let them know you are thinking of them, reach out to nói qua a funny joke you know they"ll enjoy, or just ask them how they are.Show up for them: Other people can be an important source of emotional support, but it"s just as important for you lớn reciprocate that tư vấn. Be there when they need you, even if it is just khổng lồ lover an open and supportive sầu ear.

It is also important to lớn know when to let go of a platonic relationship. Unhealthy relationships can create bức xúc, so don"t be afraid lớn kết thúc your association if the other person is unkind, manipulative sầu, hurtful, or doesn"t tư vấn you the way you tư vấn them.

Potential Challenges

It is important khổng lồ note that platonic relationships are not the same as unrequited love. Where an unrequited relationship is essentially a crush that involves one person being romantically or sexually interested in someone who does not return their feelings, true platonic relationships vày not involve sầu an unequal balance of emotions.

This does not mean that a platonic relationship can’t or won’t develop inlớn something thắm thiết or sexual. This can be a problem if preserving a platonic friendship is important. While such a relationship can potentially turn inkhổng lồ strong romantic relationships, you also run the risk of losing the friendship if you kết thúc up breaking up.

If maintaining a platonic relationship is important to lớn you, focus on establishing and maintaining clear boundaries. For example, set limits on things such as time spent together, amount of tương tác, và physical intimacy.

Some boundaries you should maintain in a platonic relationship include:

Don"t gossip or complain about your partners khổng lồ each otherDon"t engage in physical contact beyond casual intimacy (i.e., avoid things like hand-holding, kissing, or "friends-with-benefits" situations)Don"t ditch your partner to spkết thúc time with your platonic friendDon"t hide your platonic relationship from your partnerGive sầu each other plenty of spaceMake time for your other relationships

What If You Want Something More

If you are the one who wants khổng lồ extover a platonic relationship inkhổng lồ something more, it is important to be open và honest with the other person. Express your interest without pressuring them.

Discuss what it might mean to lớn the relationship and how it might ultimately affect your friendship. Platonic relationships can serve as a great foundation for a thắm thiết relationship, but it is important khổng lồ be honest & communicate openly.

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